Disappointing, difficult and destructive marriages: What’s the difference?
From the beginning of their relationship, Jane and Simon felt as though they were soul mates, complementing one another in every area of their lives. ...
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When a Man Listens to a Woman
If you don't listen to your wife, she might not feel loved. She could feel frustrated, hurt and rejected. Fortunately, there are practical things you ...
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Q & A: Spouse makes insensitive comments
Question: I can’t tell you how often my spouse has hurt my feelings with careless and cutting remarks. When I protest, he laughs and says he’s ...
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My spouse is verbally and emotionally abusive
Q. How should I respond to my spouse's insensitive words, manipulative mind games, and cruel put-downs? This has been a problem for the greater part ...
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Words that bruise: Are you emotionally abusive?
While we recognise that men are also victims of emotional abuse, most of the victims we hear from are women, so we are choosing to focus on them in ...
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How to create emotional word pictures
"We don't talk anymore!" shouted my wife, Cindy. "That's ridiculous," I said. "We talk all the time!" "But not ...
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Narcissism: Personality Patterns and Concerns
Question: What exactly is a "narcissist"? I've always assumed this is just a popular way of describing an extremely egotistical person, but ...
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Responding to Narcissism in a Loved One
What is narcissism? Sally gave birth two days before she and Joe were scheduled to move. At Joe's insistence, she and the new baby came immediately ...
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Breaking the cycle of broken marriages
Tania* grew up with her mum and dad in a small town. Everyone in the community thought Tania’s parents had a great marriage. But Tonia vividly ...
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You Can Reduce Negative Reactions in Conflict
“So not only are you late for dinner, but once again you come home and head straight for the mail,” Lisa complained to her husband, John. ...
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Separation as an act of love
While reconciliation is God’s desire for struggling couples, there are all sorts of situations that can bring a marriage to the crisis point. ...
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Your private counsellor at home
It is never too late to learn to cavort in an intuitive, intimate strut as a couple. I often speak figuratively about the styles of awkward dances ...
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