How to support each other during and after crises
I met Jeff and Kirstin when they were in the middle of a crisis. Their 17 year old son was in full-blown rebellion. Many nights he would never show ...
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The smart blended marriage
“So many couples in blended families divorce. How can I make sure this marriage is my last?” — Stepfamily seminar participant. Everyone wants ...
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Sex is a creative process
Sex is a lot like LEGO. OK, cut me some slack. As a mum of three boys, I think it’s a good analogy. Consider this: The first time a child sees a ...
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This two-step process can cure your lonely marriage
I’ll never forget when my wife, Erin, said these words: “I feel alone.” We were in the midst of a huge work transition, leaving my father’s ...
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The unhappy marriage
I love these traditional wedding vows because they set the right expectation for marriage: I take you to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to ...
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Husbands, want a better marriage? Listen to your wife!
My wife, Erin, and I just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. During our anniversary cruise, we were sitting on the top deck of the ship, ...
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Living with a depressed spouse
I lost my wife in 1985. She was still in our home, alive and breathing, but depression held her hostage. From the beginning of my wife's depression, ...
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How to keep business travel from killing your marriage
Andy and Kim* were dumbfounded when friends said they were worried about their marriage. They didn't think their troubles were so obvious. But those ...
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How to keep your marriage on course
When Cathy and I were engaged, the premarital counselling went smoothly. We put a lot of time and energy into planning our wedding. But once we were ...
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Marriage is a battle…but not against each other
The battle of the sexes probably started as far back as Adam and Eve. Actually, the battle probably ensued when Eve first asked Adam to take out the ...
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How to strengthen your marriage through doing the dishes
I can be having the best day ever and yet my blood pressure rises when I walk into our kitchen and see dirty dishes in the sink. The tension ...
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Giving up good things for the best things in marriage
It was late. My husband, Ryan, had just returned home from a meeting with our pastor and church leaders. This wasn’t a typical leadership meeting: ...
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