“Do you have any homework tonight?”

A simple question, yet it can spark what becomes a familiar argument throughout a child’s school years.

Haggling over homework is nothing new (most parents can remember protesting their own responsibilities on school nights), but homework battles in the 21st century are aggravated by a culture flooded with technical distractions.

According to research, 97 percent of youth play video games; nearly three quarters of them have an online social networking profile (Facebook, Instagram, etc.); 91 percent have a mobile phone; and the typical teen sends an average of 10 text messages an hour. Is it any wonder parents will repeatedly hear their children complain that homework is boring and pointless?

Even with the advent of computers in the classroom, formal education doesn’t even come close to holding a student’s attention like the competition. Fortunately, you don’t have to be as tech-savvy as your kids to keep them engaged in their schoolwork. Even if the assignments seem boring and pointless, you can use these opportunities to help your children develop the skills and attitudes they’ll need to be successful. You can get them thinking about the way they learn best, how they can motivate themselves and what it will take to succeed. You can teach them to be confident learners.

When I wrote my first book, The Way They Learn, my twins were toddlers. They are now in their second year of University. During all those years, the learning-styles strategies I first advocated have remained effective. Let’s take a quick look at these timeless techniques.

Ask more questions

Encourage your children to take responsibility for their success. Keep your questions brief and positive — and always assume the best. For example:

  • Would you like my help?
  • What grade do you want to earn?
  • What do you think it would take to accomplish that grade?
  • How will I know your homework is being done?
  • How do you want to be reminded?
  • Help them design their individual study space.

Don’t underestimate the importance of finding the right environment — even if it includes some elements that would make you uncomfortable if you were studying. Every child is going to be different. In our household, my son Mike usually did his homework at his desk in solitude, with no noise and no distractions. His brother, Rob, on the other hand, needed to be listening to music with headphones, lying on the floor with something to eat or drink and taking plenty of short breaks.

The most important question to ask yourself: What’s the point? If the point is to get the homework done, let your child propose how he or she wants to do it, and simply require proof that it works.

Help them focus on their strengths

For auditory learners, sounds are important — and the lack of sound can sometimes be just as critical.

They may say: Could I ask you a question? Could I talk to you? I need to say something! Give them a chance to talk about what they need to do. Ask brief questions, and be patient with long answers. The more they talk it through, the greater the chance they will get their homework done.

Then help them figure out the best environment for doing homework — challenge them to find the least distracting place. When they are working, do your best not to interrupt them, and keep outside noise levels to a minimum.

For visual learners, it’s incredibly helpful for them to picture what they’re doing or see an example of what’s expected.

They may say: Could you show me how to do this? I don’t see what you mean! Could you look at this? Help them create pictures in their minds of what their tasks should look like. Ask to see their homework assignment — sometimes just looking through it again will help them remember what they’re supposed to do. Offer to provide a visual homework reminder — maybe a calendar, a whiteboard or a pop-up reminder on their computer or phone. Remember, just giving them verbal reminders probably won’t have much effect.

For kinesthetic learners, the greatest challenge can be sitting still long enough to do their homework.

They may say: What’s the point? It’s boring! For these active and restless learners, spending any more than 5 or 10 minutes on something that seems like just another pesky chore can be perceived as torture. Their best chance for achievement often involves taking frequent short breaks and keeping some part of their body moving. Keep in mind that the point is not to have them sitting still to do their homework; the point is to get the homework done.

For learners who are wired to be analytic (step-by-step, detail-oriented, predictable), it’s important to find the best place for concentrating. They tend to thrive in a quiet, uncluttered space where they can be alone and uninterrupted. They often like to do their homework on a predictable schedule and rarely request help. Make sure they are clear about the assignment deadline. Don’t hover or nag — but get their cooperation in coming up with a method of accountability.

For learners who are wired to be global (big picture, intuitive, contextual), it may be easier to study when they’re not alone. Globals are naturally drawn to working cooperatively with others, and if they sit alone, they may struggle to concentrate on the task. One tried-and-true solution is to make sure everyone works while the global works. If your whole family can do something quiet and productive (reading, working on the computer, etc.) while your global child is studying, it’s easier for him or her to stay focused.

Homework will continue to be a challenge for parents and kids. But developing and nurturing a relationship with each of our children can build a solid foundation for educational success. The first step in this journey comes from understanding our children’s design and strengths and appreciating the unique way they learn.

© 2010 Cynthia Ulrich Tobias. All rights reserved. Used with permission. Published at focusonthefamily.com.

Cynthia Tobias

For more than 30 years, Cynthia Tobias has been teaching people of all ages how to discover and use the strengths of their natural learning style to succeed in virtually any situation. She is an author, speaker, and the founder and CEO of AppLe St. (Applied Learning Styles). Cynthia’s latest books include "You Can’t Make Me!" and "A Woman of Strength and Purpose," in addition to her classics "The Way They Learn, Every Child Can Succeed" and "Bringing Out the Best in Your Child." She has two grown sons. Learn more about Cynthia by visiting her website, www.cynthiatobias.com.

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